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One pair for the summery days, one everyday pair and we had to get new runners for his soccer training and kick and run arounds in the garden :) 

I'm in love with his new shoes. New size uk 6.5 which equals EU 23-24

Here you can see a picture of the "Ergobaby performance carrier". That's the one I have. 

You can also buy an infant insert and use it from birth. I flew to my parents in  Germany when Lorcan was 10 weeks old and that was perfect for traveling. 

"Let your baby cry - it's good for the lungs" 

Another myth I have overheard a few times. 

Letting a baby cry is one of the worst things I can imagine. The only communication the baby has in the first few month - to let you know that something is wrong - is by crying! How else can it tell you? 

It might be hungry. To hot, to cold. Maybe it has a full nappie? Maybe the tummy is sore or maybe it's just crying for your cuddles and does not want to be where it is! (Which could be on it's own on the floor or cot etc. )

There are soo many reasons but I am sure about one thing - to let a baby cry is terrible. 

It distresses the baby and the mother. Blood flows into the brain and with excessive cries it can even destroy and damage parts in the brain. Maybe long term which nowadays / with new studies shows as depression and other psychological illnesses or weaknesses later in life. Maybe as teenagers or even later. Why? Because they have never learned that they can trust someone. When they cried as babies and no one came at the time their network was shaped (the first 3 years of life)- that stays forever.

When they as babies cried for help - and no one came.. Now it's basically the same but for different reasons. 

They show problems. 

The blood presure in the brain of a crying baby (crying until exhaustion) does a lot of damages - think about it.

A baby always cries for a reason. 

Even if it is to be held. It's the only way of telling us. But then that's what the baby needs! It has only us to rely on. 

Everyone their own and I would never judge any mother of their decisions but here are my views and why I think the way I do.

Hold your baby and Love it unconditionally :)

"you spoil your child by holding it too much" 

This is probably the biggest bulls*** I have ever heard! Who in the world can get too much love? The more love a baby gets the healthier it will be. Mentally it will become strong and will know how to give back what it got.

Bonding. Hold and carry your child just as much as you want and the baby needs to! The good thing: it will become more independent and even quicker than you can imagine ;) 

Love is what makes your child strong and independent for their life and builds up self confidence :) so cuddle your baby's and don't listen to others!!! 

Here with his grandchildren ❤️

And me with my child ;)

Back to my first weeks of breastfeeding! 

I felt pretty low after giving birth. I lost a lot of blood while delivery and had a blood transfusion after. That made me very weak for about 5 weeks. But breastfeeding did one more thing to me and does to everyone: it releases hormones in your brain that make you feel good! Like a drug! Everytime he latched on I felt happy and cared about nothing else. 

Since I was lying down a lot, Lorcan slept most of the time just on my tummy :) he gave me strength and I gave him security. 

One thing I hear is "oh the poor dad" but hey ! Come on! They don't have boobs and there are many other jobs they can do and many other ways to bond than to give bottles!!!

They can change their nappies (which is a brilliant time for tickles, stories, laughing, massaging and cuddling) they can bath them, change them, go out for walks and surely the baby can sleep on their tummy listening to their heartbeat (which Lorcan loved too) 

No don't tell me that they HAVE to bottle feed for bonding! 

Now I could in the hole world not imagine having to get up every night, go into the kitchen to prepare a bottle several times a night! Thank god I didn't have to and neither did my husband! He got the most out of it by not having to get up every night ;)  sometimes to change a nappy of corse!

I read somewhere that breastfeeding moms get an average of 45min more sleep every night because of that and now tell me how much that is in two weeks? Or a month? It's a lot more sleep ;) 

"Breastfed baby's wake more and drink more at night" 

Yes do you know why? Because the milk is richer at night! They are some clever creatures ;) I guess that's why my baby was a little chubby baby :) all my natural cream hehe

"Breastfed babies tend to wake more during the first few years of life" this again I don't believe in! 

It's natural for ALL babies to wake up many times same as we do as adults! The difference is that we turn around or look at the clock and just fall back asleep. Babies and toddlers don't - they look for us- they want to sleep with momie and daddy! Surely :) we sleep with our partners too and don't like to sleep alone. Why would they want that? All alone in a dark room and cold bed. next to mom or dad is a natural security that gives them trust and health. most babies who co- sleep , sleep through the night early too! They wake, see that we are there and go back to sleep. 

It's all about what we want as parents. 

"By helping the child to know what will happen next, routine and ritual help her to build trust in the world and to feel secure in her life."

at least the weather was mild so it was not too cold. Here you can have a sneak peak to what we did today ! 

I am in love with the place :) 

The first few days and weeks

Yes it was sore in the first week. Surely no one has sucked as much and as often on my breast / nipples! They need to toughen up first! That can be painful - no pain no game!

Also they feed a lot. And fall asleep while drinking :) but who wouldn't fall asleep on a warm skin to skin contact with their momies, the yummy milk, the breath the can feel the heartbeat beating in a lovely rhythm. This must be like heaven for a baby. There is nothing else that can and will ever beat or fake this as good as the real mom! 

then there are all these advantages too! The bonding is so important for later in life! the first two years are the most important of your life and these are the years that shape you! That's what makes you - you! 

it's like starting the constructing from scratch. everything else or what comes after just builds up and gives directions. 

But the network in the brain like the framework of the building - that's what happens in the first two years and bonding and building up a trust and security will last forever! 

The countown starts! Not long to go now! Here are pictures from today! 

Yaay - exciting days!! 

With a kid it needs to be done fast! but also baking with a kid can be fun! 

Yesterday we baked yummy Swedish pastry called Bullar and today our treat after dinner were strawberries! Check it out: 

http://www.parents.com/blogs/parents-news-now/2014/05/05/fun/playing-outside-may-make-kids-more-spiritual/

 

First question that crosses your mind: what will I wear? Especially being highly pregnant?

I finally found THE dress! It's from MANGO and all I need to do now is to get it fitted by a dressmaker! 

I am usually in S but had to buy Medium since my chest has widened and my bump is too big to close the back otherwise!

I love the color! A real Teal.

it needs to be shortened in length and the straps and needs to be widened for the growing tummy :)

Since so many momies tend to ask me about some tips and tricks about parenting and breastfeeding, I decided to write about different things that come to my mind and may help other moms too. 

As I mentioned before, I have a toddler boy, aged 27 month and another boy on it's way - due the second of august. 

I breastfed from the start with no complications and had never anything other planed nor on my mind.

Breastfeeding in Ireland and around the world (Europe).

I am half Swedish and half German and that might be one reason for me being very shocked when I for the first time ever (in Ireland) heard anyone asking for help and what she, as expectant mother should do, since her entire family expects her -yes I said expect- to bottle feed her baby!? But she would have loved to breastfeed - obviously without support.

That was the first time I actually came across anything else than breastfeeding. I could not see any reason for it and neither imagine why 

you possibly would even think about it before having tried to breastfeed.

Being in Ireland shows me that it's rather rare to breastfeed than the opposite.

Sometimes I still can't see the point but have come to the conclusion that it must be a cultural thing.

what I hear mostly is expectant mothers who ask me "did you breastfeed?" And when I answer: "yes and I absolutely loved it" they seem at first surprised but then want to hear more about it and some even want to try it out. 

I think it's all about confidence and what they hear around them and what they are used to see.

I was breastfed. Breastfed by a German mother, in Sweden.

Breastfeeding rate in Sweden was at 98% in 2009 for: exclusively and *complementary breastmilk in the first month of the baby's life.

“Complementary Breastmilk” – Baby receives both breastmilk and other foods/liquids (which could include formula, juice, solid foods, teas, water, etc.).

Where of 85% was exclusively breastmilk!

The first 4 it was still at 55% with exclusively breastfed milk.

if we look at Irish statistics from 2009 it starts at 

55% exclusively and *complementary breastmilk.

Where of 42% was excl. breastmilk at the first month.

At month 3 it's already down to 19% exclusively breastfed milk.

To me these are shocking numbers.

What benefit do you have from a bottle? 

In this blogg I don't want to go in to statistics too much but talk from just my own thoughts :) Everyone has their own opinion and all I want is to share mine.

For me breastfeeding is the best thing in the world.

I had no questions about it, no doubts!

I had never any other thoughts about breastfeeding since that's all I had on my mind. Always.

Lorcan was born. They put him on my chest, (he felt much heavier than I expected with 4kg) and a few minutes later I latched him on. He sucked on my breast straight away. it was amazing! That's what they are there for right?? 

that's the reason they are growing when we are teenagers > to later in life produce some yummy milk. 

You can not give your child anything better! There is nothing in the world that can beat the natural ingredients made for your own child! 

now a little photo collage of the last few month

I will share my opinions about motherhood but to keep the fashion side up since these two things is what I enjoy most :) 

Meeting my parents in spain instead of Home was a big relief which started with the traveling. Just one flight and direct from Cork- Mallorca!

Going home is usually a disaster, which doesn't make it easier with a toddler and being pregnant in the third trimester! So we decided to meet somewhere perfect!